The next time a woman tells you she's cramping, never trivialize her pain. I know that period pains are not normal but it's pain untold. The kind you wish you'd be dead already. Darkness dominates your world and at the far corner of your bedroom is your breath laughing at you, yet you can't touch it. Everyone who has met me in the wake of those pains has seen exactly what a woman resurrected from death looks like.
Here is a poem I wrote during one of those.
When a woman says she's cramping,
Her world is cracking and breaking and aching and bleeding and burning.
Her stomach the center of all the atrocities.
She's seated on the toilet multitasking. Throwing up and asking her pain how much toilet paper should a bleeding woman spend for five days.
Before she calculates, she's crawling on the floor and rolling over in bed.
Every particle that hits her stomach is thrown out,
until nothing is left but her throat to come out.
Allover her tummy are the blisters left by hot water bottles she so expected to relieve the pain.
Insults sound like, 'get a man' 'get a baby'
Exercise, 'oh just cramps! Women problems!
So when a woman says she's cramping,
allow her to frown, to groan and moan for her body is a warzone.
She's won these battles on her own.
Allow her to chase you away she doesn't need you.
Far away from her world if you can't take her uterus away.
Allow her to crave for chocolates and ice cream at midnight and if she doesn't get it,
allow her to scream.
Don't judge the tantrums and the yelling.
Don't touch her she's allergic and fragile.
She might be wishing death upon herself.
Cursing her uterus for the torture,
wondering how heartless is Mother Nature,
And how ruthless is the creator.
Why the overdose of Buscopan, Ibuprofen, Ponstan and even induction would never touch the pain.
Aketch told me that her lips know the bitter taste of
poverty,
Like Nelson Mandela knew his way to liberty,
And that’s why she gives to charity.
But I told her that,
You only know what poverty tastes like,
if your mother or your grandmother, sat on stones waiting for jobs that never
came.
or tirelessly tilled other people's lands,
while her stomach was always a flat tire
because all the bread she earned she let you have.
If you were washing clothes without soap,
When your friends were watching soap operas,
And the only view you could afford, was the vision of owning a television
someday.
You watched your Koroboi go off,
And with incomplete homework you crashed out.
I told her,
that you know what poverty tastes like,
if your old soul still remembers the cold sleepless nights,
when you tried to sign peace treaties with your empty stomach,
but in vain it chose war.
and you gazed into darkness in the middle of the night wondering,
if the small intestines are the Mau Mau fighters,
and the colons are fighting to colonize them,
making you realize that some wars take place within us,
and resilience is how we fight back.
I told Aketch that you only know what poverty tastes like,
if your elder brother dropped out of Primary six
because education could wait,
but the rumbling stomach of his hungry siblings could not.
A problem he was shot on the head trying to fix.
The sound of that bullet sent the ghetto into dead silence,
as if it took their voices away,
or just a moment of silence for a big brother who became a father before he was
a child.
The next morning rumors said it was robbery with violence.
The only reason you still see through your schoolwork.
Convinced that the freedom out of your chronic poverty is through
education.